You Are Not My Mother

By Frank Furu Linda Bondestam

A wistful picture book depicting a little refugee girl’s emotional journey.  Aysha is on her own in a strange new place, Finland. Together with others she lives at a reception centre and goes to school. Sometimes her classmates say something silly but she can’t seem to find the words to respond and frustration takes over. The adults around her do their best to look after and comfort her. They are friendly, they cook and eat together with Aysha, talk to her and stroke her hair. But they are not her mother, heartbroken Aysha thinks to herself as she dreams of the scent of breakfast canjeeros and longs for her life back at her home village together with her loved ones. Some days are good and some gloomy, but there is always someone to comfort her and a lap to sit on, Aysha is not alone. This is an important and stopping story based on real events. A touching narrative by author Frank Furu combined with illustrator Linda Bondestam’s delicate colour palette. 

Publishing information

Year of publication

2021

Page count

32

Original title

Ni är inte min mamma

Original language

Swedish

Original publisher

Förlaget M

Rights sold

  • Denmark

Awards & nominations

Nominations

2022

Runeberg Junior Prize

About the author

Author photo of Frank Furu for Rights and Brands Literary Rights.

Frank Furu (b. 1984) is based in Pietarsaari.You Are Not My Mother is his debut book, created together with illustrator Linda Bondestam. The touching story was inspired by his personal experiences and emotional encounters while working with refugee children for almost a decade.

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Linda Bondestam (b.1977) studied to become an illustrator at Kingston University in the United Kingdom.Bondestam has illustrated dozens of children’s books for Finnish and Swedish publishers, and her books have been translated into several languages including Arabic, Belorussian, Croatian, Danish, English, Finnish, German, Latvian, Norwegian, Russian, Serbian, Turkish and Ukrainian. She is one of the most prominent children’s book illustrators in the Nordic countries.She has been nominated for the prestigious Finlandia Junior Prize three times, and the Astrid Lindgren Memorial Award six times. She has also been recognized with nominations for the Nordic Council’s Children and Young People’s Literature Prize in 2013 and 2021, and the August Prize in 2016, 2019 and 2021.Bondestam’s collaboration with Ulf Stark on Animals That No One Has Seen Except Us was awarded the Snöbollen Prize for Swedish Picture Book of the Year in 2016, and the Nordic Council’s Children and Young People’s Literature Prize in 2017. Bondestam was also the first recipient of the Vanessa Prize (Vanessapriset) in 2016. Bondestam’s own title, My Life at The Bottom, was a pick for the White Raven Catalogue in 2021. Bondestam's picture book Chop Chop earned her the 2025 August Prize - Swedish Children’s Book of the Year.She has been sitting on chair number 11 in the Swedish Children’s Book Academy since 2019.

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Reviews

The picture book You are Not My Mother is one of last years most touching children's books. The book tells the story of Aysha's existence at a refugee reception centre and is not afraid to shy away from the painful things.

Västra Nyland

"Frank Furu's and Linda Bondestam's picture book is a real children's cultural act in terms of its subject matter. But it is also special because if it's intense illustrations and scarce, but perhaps precisely for that reason, extremely expressive text. In addition to explaining how refugee children feel, the way the picture book describes the feelings of being excluded is familiar to all children."

Lastenkirjahylly

“You Are Not my Mother “(Ni är inte min mamma) written by Frank Furu and illustrated by Linda Bondestam is a beautiful and moving story about an unaccompanied refugee child. It is the child itself that tells the story of how it feels to be different and how it is to lack knowledge of the language you are supposed to express yourself with. The illustrator strongly depicts the child’s feelings in the pictures: anger is a roaring panther and loneliness is pitch black. And the dream of Mother is beautifully sand colored. The illustrations invite us to step into a small person’s life, alone in a new and foreign country. The book’s short and melancholic text, together with the illustrations, creates a strong emotional experience for both the reader and the listener."

Runeberg Junior Prize jury 2022

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